Documentary Review: ‘No Dresscode Required’

Review by Caitlin Zeigler

Víctor Fernando Urías Amparo (Fernando) and Víctor Manuel Aguirre Espinoz (Victor) lived in Baja, California and built up a life together. When they decided to get married, it was a beautiful moment at a time when the Supreme Court said marriage is legal for people of the LGBTQ+ community. They decided if they couldn’t get married in Baja, they would get married in Mexico. Unfortunately, they lived in Mexicali and local government was very much against gay marriage.

Fernando decided to contact an actor he had never met through social media because he was one of the first people to get married after the Supreme Court made its judgment. He told them to fight to marry where they wanted to, which was in Baja. He also put them in touch with his lawyer, Alex Alí Méndez Díaz, who had fought for him. Alex told Fernando and Victor he would fight for them, but he needed them to get a lawyer where they lived so he could work through him.

It was 2013 when Fernando and Victor decided to get married. They were told they had to go through a premarital class and they did. The government blocked their marriage in every possible way conceivable. The marriage counselor told them the marriage class was approved for them when Fernando and Victor lied and said the marriage would be between a man and a woman, but that never happened. It was recorded that they went through the class like anyone else, got their certificate and never said they were a man and woman.

Their local lawyer, Jose Luis Márquez Saavedra, was with them every step of the way and called the government officials out on their lies. Fernando and Victor were eventually told they could get married now or fight for everyone and get married in a few months. A few months turned into a few years and the government went from calling in bomb threats to saying they can’t get married because they have dementia.

This documentary shows you all of the hurdles Fernando and Victor go through to allow gay people to freely marry and get the same rights as everyone else. Anyone against it gives the same argument of marriage is supposed to be between a man and a woman or they can’t make children, so they shouldn’t be allowed to marry. Despite seeing constant asinine arguments against gay marriage and the breaking point that everyone involved in hits, this documentary ends on a high note giving people what they truly deserve: equality.

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